It’s On Us is a nationwide effort to reduce sexual assault by focusing on three key areas: bystander intervention, consent education, and survivor support. Educational resources can be found here.
For victim-survivors, the organization provides a number of different resources. They provide a “Self-care checklist” (also below).
SELF-CARE TO DO LIST
Think about what you enjoy doing. This could be anything from a walk around the block during lunch to a weekend trip to the national park. Self care looks different for each of us.
Schedule a time to do it each day, week, or however often you feel it is needed. Put time on your calendar for it to remind yourself to do it and to not schedule other things for those times.
Think of ways to incorporate relaxing activities in your day to day schedule. This could be anything from closing your laptop while you eat your lunch to leaving your phone in your bag while you commute to work or school.
Spend time with those that make you happy. Surround yourself with people that are fun and supportive.
It’s okay to say no. If you feel like your body or mind will not benefit from doing something, take a break to rest or do something you do enjoy and that feels relaxing.
Take care of your body. If you are feeling tired, try to get to bed just a few minutes earlier each day.
Think about why you are doing the self care activity. Remind yourself why you are taking time out of your day to do something that is not for work or school — it is for you! Self care helps us recuperate from a stressful or busy schedule and to be more productive afterwards.
Disability Minus Abuse, founded in July 2020, aims to address abuse of people with disabilities through public awareness, education and training, policy development, law enforcement, and professional consulting. The organization provides a listserv for individuals to receive an array of resources. You can sign up here.
The organization offers an online platform for topic groups such as the intersections of Deaf individuals and police, the Equal Rights Amendment and people with disabilities, etc. To request to join, please visit here.
Community United Against Violence is an organization that works to build the power of LGBTQ communities to reduce violence and oppression. The organization aims to create safe communities for everyone to thrive.
The organization offers advocacy-based peer counseling. Through this service, individuals within the LGBTQ community can access short-term counseling for emotional support, safety planning, referrals, and limited case follow-up. To schedule an appointment, you can either call 415.333.HELP (4357) or email email@example.com. I offer counseling through phone or zoom.
Take Care Tuesdays is a support group offered through zoom on Tuesday evenings open to all LGBTQIA2-S survivors of violence. Sign up here.
Yoga 4 Heart Resilience is a 4-week virtual series for LGBTQI2S Survivors of violence focusing on breathwork and movement. The program is offered in English and Spanish. Sign up here. (Takes place in Fall 2021)
What if I’m being stalked? A recording is provided of the discussion between representatives from YWCA Kalamazoo, K’s Office of Gender Equity/Title IX department, and K’s Counseling Department. The panelists provide resources and information on processes and protections for victim-survivors of stalking. Discussion facilitated by Haley Mangette, Project Coordinator of the DOJ Office of Violence Against Women grant and Office of Sexual Violence Prevention and Advocacy.
The #MeToo Movement took social media by storm in October 2017, originally founded by Taran Burke in 2006, to share the impact and prevalence of sexual violence in communities. The organization that developed from this movement continues to work to provide assistance to a large spectrum of survivors.
The National Institute of Mental Health (NIH) provides information on trauma and tips to cope with a traumatic event. Coping with Traumatic Events breaks down some warning signs of what can trauma can look like in a person.
Individuals who have experienced a traumatic event can respond with feelings of anxiousness, a depressed mood, or anger. They can have trouble concentrating, eating, or sleeping. It’s important to know that each individual is different. The warning signs listed in this article may not encompass everything that a person experiences.
The article provides additional resources on the responses and some ways to cope with these responses.
Taking Me Back is an independent poster that supports sexual assault survivors through posts on a variety of information. The page discusses survivors like Vanessa Guillen, Toyin Salua, Daisy Coleman, and many other survivors, as well as current policies and the impact that they have for survivors. The page posts resources specific to different identities.
Originating from End Violence Against Women International (EVAWI), Start by Believing is a worldwide effort to support survivors and end gender-based violence. EVAWI aims to improve policy and institutional practices dealing with incidents of gender-based violence. The organization offers information and resources for advocates working with survivors.
Start by Believing emphasizes the initial step of supporting a survivor of gender-based violence by believing them. Over 9000 people submitted pledges to commit to believing survivors and supporting them through their healing process. You can make a personal commitment to this cause here: Pledge.
Navigating the experience that you had can be difficult, particularly when you can’t name it. Define What Happened explains the differences between sexual abuse, sexual assault, rape, and sexual harassment. Another step is to explore what resources and options you have. Explore Your Options provides affirmations and services to contact. Actions You Can Take provides information on medical services along with forensic exams (also known as a SANE exam). The page provides reporting options: to law enforcement, to Title IX offices, and to the military system.
Helping a Survivor
What To Say offers those who are listening to survivors’ statements to validate the survivor’s feelings and experiences. The organization also provides a list of tips for speaking with survivors: Helping a Survivor.
The Trevor Project is a nation-wide organization that provides crisis intervention and suicide prevention specific to the LGBTQIA+ community under 25.
The Trevor Project offers a support center that includes resources discussing different identities in the community, as well as questions specific to those identities. Resources can be found here: Trevor Support Center