Victim-Survivor Love Letters Video

As part of efforts for Sexual Assault Awareness Month, we are hoping to put together a compilation of videos from faculty, staff, and administration with messages of support for victims and survivors of sexual assault. We are hoping to collect 15 to 20 second videos by April 17th to compile and send out on the SPEAK Instagram. If you need any assistance in developing the letter or recording, please let Haley Mangette (Haley.Mangette@kzoo.edu)! 

Examples of positive affirmations:  

  • “I want you to know that even though we may have never met, I care about you and believe in you. You are not at fault for what happened to you. You are brave, powerful, intelligent, and I am here for you.”  
  • “You are not alone. Please, do not hesitate to reach out to resources here at K like the counseling services, the office of gender equity, or our YWCA Advocate, Mya. You are strong. I care about you and want you to know that you do not have to go through this alone.”  
  • “I believe you. This shouldn’t have happened to you and you are not at fault. You did not do anything to deserve this.” 

Phrases/ words to avoid:  

  • “I understand what you are going through.”  
  • “You will be okay” or “You will get through this”  
  • Triggering words (such as rape). 


If you would like to participate in this effort but not on video, we have an online anonymous collection you can submit to as well: https://sexualsafety.kzoo.edu/sll/.

Take Back The Night Speak Out: Speakers

Every April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM). During SAAM, different groups and organizations hold events to raise awareness for and acknowledge the impact that sexual assault has on those within our and other communities. A Speak out, hosted on Denim Day (Wednesday, April 26), is an annual event with the mission of ending sexual, relationship, and domestic violence in all forms. The Speak out allows victims and survivors of gender-based violence and intimate-partner violence to share their stories and/or pieces of writing or art to empower themselves and raise awareness of the issue in a supportive, “off-the-record” space.

Because of the nature of this subject, we also offer the opportunity for victim-survivors to anonymously share their stories to be read on stage. You can upload your submission atAnonymous Submissions .

We will also be offering confidential writing workshops that offer a safe and mediated space to put experiences into words.  The first workshop will be held this Thursday, April 6th from 4:15 to 5:30 p.m. in the CCE Community Room (Dewing).Anyone is welcome to share their stories, poetry, art, etc. If you wish to participate or have any questions, please contact Abbey.Mcmillian20@kzoo.edu  (student) or Haley.Mangette@kzoo.edu (staff member).

Narcissist Apocalypse

Narcissist Apocalypse is a storytelling podcast that gives a voice to survivors of toxic relationships, narcissistic abuse, and domestic violence. Through the power of story, our community helps educate, heal, and make you feel less alone.

Narcissist Apocalypse– website

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Deaf, DeafBlind & Hard of Hearing Services

The National Deaf Domestic Violence Hotline (NDDVH) is available to Deaf callers across the US. Deaf NDDVH advocates at Abused Deaf Women’s Advocacy Services (ADWAS) answer videophone calls and emails 24/7. If using a voice phone, you will be connected to an interpreter for duration of the phone call. These advocates can listen, provide information and referrals, and brainstorm with callers different ways to keep safe and do formal safety planning.

  • Video phone: 855.812.1001
  • Instant messenger: DeafHotline
  • Email: nationaldeafhotline@adwas.org

Abused Deaf Women’s Advocacy Services

National Domestic Violence Hotline- Deaf, DeafBlind, & Hard of Hearing Services

Sexual Assault Services for Holistic Healing and Awareness (SASHA) Center

The SASHA Center is a sexual assault service, prevention and educational agency that supports survivors of sexual assault. SASHA Center is open to all; however they focus on assisting African-American women who are survivors of sexual assault. The center provides culturally specific services to Sexual Assault survivors through peer educational support groups that are free, confidential and trauma-informed.

Located in Detroit

Sexual Assault Services for Holistic Healing and Awareness 1-888-865-7055 (not 24-hour)

Links:

Webpage

Facebook

Instagram

Twitter

Something Was Wrong

Something Was Wrong is a true-crime docuseries about the discovery, trauma, and recovery from shocking life events and abusive relationships. The podcast is a space for survivors of domestic violence to share their experiences.

Please be aware that the podcast can be hard to listen to due to the discussion of abuse tactics. Remember to take care of yourself when listening.

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Isurvive

Isurvive is a online community for abuse survivors. The organization provides resources and resources specific for individuals who have experienced abuse as a child.

The organization offers resources for individuals in the US and Canada, Australia and New Zealand, and the UK. Resources specific to the US include:

  • Domestic Violence Survival Kit
  • The Addiction Center- Addiction and Domestic Violence
  • Adult Survivors of Child Abuse (ASCA) by the Morris Center.
  • and many more located throughout the US.

Several forums are provided through the organization. Discussions are separated into 7 parent forums: General Discussion; Survivors; Breaking the cycle; Addictions, Self-Harm, and Unhealthy Coping Strategies; Family, Friends, and Relationships; Lighthearted and Off Topic; Creative Corner and Art Gallery. A number of sub-forums are offered if the individual becomes a member of the organization. Memberships is free.